No Fap Resources Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLa3CEv0rl_w1Mom78jpS7LFxZRSca9PtS Seamus’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seamusmatthewsullivan/ Access Seamus’s Personal Coaching & Content Services: https://members.jusbfit247.com/coach/seamus-sullivan/ Cenegenics Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cenegenics/ Max’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maxhfreedom/ Max’s Medium: https://medium.com/@maxhfreedom RESOURCES MENTIONED: “Your Brain on Porn” by Gary Wilson https://indianpdf.files.wordpress.com/2021/07/your-brain-on-porn-internet-pornography-and-the-emerging-science-of-addiction-gary-wilson-indianpdf.com_-pdf-book-online-download-free.pdf “The Social Dilemma” Documentary on Netflix Alex Hormozi https://www.instagram.com/hormozi/ Wildman Wellness (Jack May) https://www.instagram.com/wildman_wellness/ TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 Introduction 1:10 Dangers of Porn 4:41 Porn + Relationships 12:00 No Entertainment or Social Media 12:30 Porn can be/is just one toxic habit in amongst the crowd 18:00 Social Media + Porn accessibility 24:40 Porn overrides your biology 32:20 Don't compare yourself to other people that are further ahead on the journey than you, take inspiration from them 38:30 Porn issues stem from emotions 49:00 The double sided coin that is effort and struggle 54:30 Connect with Seamus 1:00:44 Final Message SHOW NOTES "What is that one thing in your life that you're not looking at or facing, that's actually going to get your life moving incrementally?” - Sometimes the biggest problem in your life has a fairly simple answer - The solution is right there you're just not looking at it - What are you avoiding? - What’s that one micro change you could make that would actually lead to something? Reward in the moment, loss long term - Seamus realised he was using porn as a space filler and instant gratification time - He didn’t have to put any effort into anything. He didn’t have to interact with anyone. He could do absolutely nothing and get exactly what he wanted. - Instant gratification like this can be great in the moment but if you can get everything you want without effort, then why put effort into anything? Porn & Relationships - The unspoken habit of porn is creating a lot of tension in relationships - Sharing your struggles & emotions with your partner is critical - Many hands make light work. Don't be afraid of their criticism, just receive their assistance - Porn is sex without the effort & interaction. So which one will you crave more? The Biology of Porn - It's the biological imperative that makes the consequences and addiction to porn so severe. - Seeing 100's if not 1,000's of beautiful naked girls on your screen at the push of a button tells your brain that you have THAT many girls that value you so highly. - “Your brain thinks you must be Genghis Khan or something.” - Your eyes cannot distinguish between pixels on a screen and reality. - Every ejaculation tells the body that successful mating has just occurred - The more often you do this, the more mates your body thinks it's reproduced with - You must already be an attractive dominant male - You have achieved your body’s greatest biological desire: to pass on your genes. Ejaculation is draining because of the physical material your body sacrifices within it to give life to your new child but it's also draining because when your body knows it has achieved all these fantastic children with beautiful women, why bother doing anything else in life? The unseen effects of porn - A lot of the damages of porn go completely unseen and unrealised until you quit porn. - How many of the negative challenges in your life are actually only there because of your porn use. - Distance, arguments and lack of sex in your relationship? It could be your porn use. Steps to free yourself: - Comparing porn to ATG Methods. - Is there a way to regress yourself off of porn? - One step at a time vs cold turkey? - "Any goal that you need is a good goal if it get you started" - "Don't beat yourself up. Just understand that the behaviour is not serving you. And then start making the small steps forward in order to start serving you" The emotional aspect of porn addiction - Porn is not the actual problem. - The reason you keep going to porn? You're not being fulfilled emotionally in some other area of your life. - There is an emotional gap somewhere and your using porn to fill that gap. - Men often don't get to experience there emotions without judgement. What's so bad about crying? "What is that one thing in your life that you're not looking at or facing, that's actually going to get your life moving incrementally? - Alex Hormozi Anger can push you through and help you achieve in life. But all those achievement will be very lonely ones seeing as you pissed off everyone with your anger in order to get there.